Transparency

Peter Knox sparked this off with his own monologue on transparency:

“This is my website. If you don’t want to hire me for this transparency, maybe I don’t want to work for you. If you don’t want to date me for this exposure, maybe I don’t want to date you … anonymous just isn’t for me - I want you to know me and accept me and to support me.” (Peter Knox via Ilyana)

I love to express who I am and what I think. I don’t know if it’s out of attention, a need to be liked, a need to be praised, or something else. I don’t try to hide anything for fear of embarrassment or rejection. I don’t try to act differently with one group or another because then I’m being selective. Besides, it’s hard to juggle so many different “images” sometimes.

I live life transparently so that I connect as a single person.

Honesty

I also love being honest about things because only then do I really start to communicate with people:

“That’s one thing I’ve noticed: When I am radically honest, people become radically honest themselves. I feel my resentment fade away. I like this guy. We have a good meeting.” (A. J. Jacobs)

And when you start to honestly communicate with people you build strong relationships. I enjoy what people have to say to me when they know I’m receptive. I appreciate those willing to have conversations in the comments (or by email or some other means) and perhaps I reciprocate by being honest.

I live life honestly in order to really connect with people.

So what?

I act and think the same online as I do with my friends from school, with people at work and so on. I feel that combining honesty and transparency create genuinity (boy, I do think quite highly of myself!). But seriously, I feel as if my life is so much easier (as if it were tough?) and so much more enjoyable this way.

This quote is what I’m trying to explain.. but in a much better way: “If you tell the truth you don’t have to remember anything.” -Mark Twain

Is this the best way?

Obviously this lifestyle isn’t for everyone. It seems to work alright for me: I don’t have to act differently, I don’t have to be selective with my words, I don’t have to remember what I can and can’t show people on Facebook. It’s all out there and I’m receptive to anyone who comes along with praise, criticism and so on. It also allows me to be me.

Does this make sense? What’s the other side to all this?

Resources:
Transparency by Peter Knox - Defining one’s own need to be transparent.
I Think You’re Fat by A.J. Jacobs. Esquire. - An experiment in Radical Honesty

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